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Part VII : Osho advises group participants
Therapy groups attend darshan together on the last day of each
group, and sometimes during the group. Osho asks each participant
in turn: Anything to say?
A member of the Soma group says: After one of the meditations
I felt vibrations of so much joy and happiness coming right up
through my body. It felt so fantastic…just vibrating and
vibrating. I'm just so full of love and gratitude towards you.
Very good. This has been a breakthrough. But make it a point
to relive it again and again. Just sitting silently, remember
it; don't remember it, relive it. Again start feeling the same.
Let the vibrations surround you. Move into the same space and
allow it to happen so it becomes by and by very natural to you.
You become so capable of bringing it that any moment you can do
it.
Many valuable insights happen in the groups but they need follow-up.
Otherwise they become just memories and you will lose contact
and will not be able to move into the same world. By and by, one
day you yourself will start disbelieving them. You may think that
it was a dream or a hypnosis, or some trick of the mind. That's
how humanity has lost many beautiful expriences.
Everybody comes around some beautiful spaces someday or other
in his life, but we never try to make a path to it so that it
becomes natural, so that it becomes just as when you eat every
day, you take your bath or go to sleep, and whenever you close
your eyes you can be in it.
Osho gives him an energy darshan.
Very good. You will be able to get into it easily. It has been
tremendously valuable. So every day, just sit and try to bring
this. Do it for ten minutes and you will be completely drowned
in it. cypres04
A group participant says: It was the most beautiful experience
I have ever known…I felt my whole life had changed. But
today it feels as if it has gone—all of it.
Mm, I understand. If a group takes you high, you are bound to
fall very low. That is the price one has to pay for going very
high. People who have not gone so high are not so unhappy. But
this is good. One should be happy about it.
One should be happy that one has something which can be lost.
You should be happy that you are feeling frustrated, because something
has happened. In comparison to that, you are feeling unhappy and
frustrated. If nothing had happened there would have been no frustration.
That's the whole attitude of how to look at things.
And what has happened will happen again. What has happened in
the group can happen out of the group, because in fact it is not
the group that is making it happen; it is you. You are allowing
it to happen. And if you can learn how to allow it to happen,
it can happen anywhere.
The whole of life is so tremendously beautiful and so tremendously
graceful….
The monsoon had started only the day before.
…listen to those rains and clouds. Life is such an ongoing,
continuous bliss. Just be happy…be open to it.
Do one thing. When you go back home, just sit silently and allow
it to happen again And don't be worried. It has nothing to do
with the group. A group is just an opportunity to help. It has
shown you the path. Now you know that it is possible, now you
know that it can happen. Now you know that you are capable of
it. This confidence is all that the group can give to you. It
has been given to you. The group has worked tremendously well
for you. It has functioned at its very peak.
All that the group really has given to you is a confidence that
this can happen to you—a possibility, a vision of your own
potentiality. Now try it on your own. The frustration will disappear.
So back home, just allow it to happen. Just remember exactly what
you enjoyed so much—your blissfulness, being full of energy.
Start dancing—move, shake, laugh. For one hour try to create
it on your own. It will come. It may take a few minutes to bring
it out, but by the end of one hour you will be able to.
And I will go on working on you, so don't be afraid. cypres21
The growth group is needed because you have a tremendous need
to relate, to love, to communicate. In the West the basic problem
is how to communicate, how to relate. Many Westerners are here.
When they come to me in darshan their problems are a hundred per
cent relationship problems—how to relate.
Not even a single Indian has come who has said, 'How to relate?'
That is not a problem at all. He says, 'How to be silent? How
to be into one's own being?'…
That's why I do not send Easterners to groups, except Japanese.
I have sent a few Japanese because Japan is the most Western part
of the East. I have sent Indians only once or twice—and
these were only name's-sake Indians. They have been born in the
East but their mind has not been developed by the Eastern concept,
their mind is Western. They have been taught by Christian missionaries
in Christian schools. Their whole education and up-bringing is
Western….
It depends on the person—on what he needs. To a few Westerners
also I don't suggest groups. When I see some Westerner who has
no need to relate then I don't suggest groups, then I say there
is no need. But at least five thousand years of different psychological
conditioning exists. That has to be taken note of. tao214
When participants doze off in the Zazen group an assistant gently
but firmly taps them with a stick on the top of the head, in the
old zen tradition. Osho asks a participant how he felt when he
got hit. He answers: Very good when I got hit.
Yes it is beautiful. In Zen, they wait, they pray for it. By and
by you will wait and pray for it….
When you are starting to sleep, or dozing, then your energy is
moving into another gear—from waking to sleeping. It is
moving, changing. You are just at the door, neither alert enough
nor asleep enough, and then—a hit on the head, suddenly
an awakening inside, a lightning. You have been caught on the
door! And that door, and the realisation of your being caught
on the door, is something very beautiful.
By and by one starts praying for it. Who else was hit?
Another participant says: I was hit several times, but for the
first three times I thought something was happening inside my
head I was not aware that someone else did it.
(Chuckling) It happens that way. The energy suddenly comes up.
It can be a feeling of something inside happening. hammer27
You say: Osho, My idea of a good time is to go to a good French
restaurant, eat my favourite food, smoke between courses, listen
to music, drink lots of wine and read an absorbing novel—all
at the same time. What to do? P.S. I am in the Zazen group at
the moment.
Zazen and Vipassana—these two groups give people such
beautiful ideas! Every day I receive many letters from the Zazen
and Vipassana groups—no other group gives such good ideas,
because sitting silently doing nothing, one starts fantasizing
about all kinds of things. Your idea is just farrr out! zzzzz15
A visitor who is in a group says she is afraid to show her hate
and anger to others.
This is the beauty of a growth group—that it gives you an
opportunity that is not available in the ordinary world. If the
world would grow rightly, this opportunity would be available
all over the world—everywhere: in the marketplace, in the
temple, in the church, in the school, in the college, in the university.
Then there would be no need for groups and you would be accepted
everywhere. Nobody would be judging you and everybody would be
trying to help you. People will appreciate that you are sincere.
This is not possible in the outside world, hence groups have
evolved; just twelve or twenty persons in a group, a closed family,
in which everybody is ready to open. But when others are opening,
it is easier to open; it becomes infectious. When you see that
somebody has opened and nobody has condemned them, nobody has
taken any judgement about it, and by opening the person has come
to feel a freedom…you can see on the face, you can feel
the vibe, you can see some changes happening around his space.
He is no more the same constrained being. He is like an opening
flower, and you can see the after-glow that comes after opening.
You can see the relaxed grace, the dignity that comes to a person.
If you go on seeing this happening and you cannot open, where
will you open? It has to function like a chain. One person opens
and suddenly another starts feeling that something beautiful has
happened and thinks, 'Why shouldn't I take courage?' He opens
and then a third takes courage. This is a chain-reaction.
That's why person-to-person therapy has failed. People have
been in psychotherapy for ten years, twelve years, even fifteen
and twenty years, and nothing has happened. Within a ten-day group,
that can happen which cannot happen in ten years of psychoanalysis,
because there is no situation really—just the therapist
and the person. It is not an environment in which somebody can
flower, can take hints from others, can see what flowering is;
can actually be a witness when somebody flowers and opens, and
can see how beautiful one becomes. Suddenly the ugliness disappears
from the face.
So don't miss this opportunity. Just watch people…they
are just like you; they also have the same problems. Nothing human
is alien. Whatsoever problem you have, they are just the same;
maybe degrees differ. When people are being angry and their hate
is coming up, their sexuality is coming up, their greed is coming
up—they are crying and weeping and laughing and things are
opening, pent-up energies are finding release—watch! Get
caught up in the flow! Ride on the wave! Take a jump! getout18
A sannyasin has walked out of a group because she felt afraid.
Osho tells her not to worry about the experience. He suggests
she do the Encounter group which is softer:
You need these groups but you are afraid. If you go through
them, the fear will drop. There is no other way to drop the fear,
otherwise you will always carry it.
The only way to get rid of it is to pass through a situation
where you think that there is some danger and then you pass through
it and nothing happens. You come out of it completely open. It
is finished, gone. If you are afraid of the night, go into the
darkness of the night.
I think you should try the Encounter, and if you don't feel
like it, drop out. Just tell the groupleader that if you start
getting too frightened, he has to allow you to leave. But do your
best and don't be in a hurry to leave. If you feel that it is
impossible to tolerate it, he will allow you to leave.
But try. It is better to try, because otherwise how will you
get rid of this fear? Even if you do three or four days of Encounter,
that will do, mm? Good. cypres19
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